Positive Relationship Quiz

Whether you are in a long-term or casual relationship, you deserve to be treated well and ensure that you are treating your partner respectfully. Take the quiz to see how healthy your relationship is.

The quiz is available in hard copy to download or order from our resources.

Quiz 1: The person I am with…

YesNo

  • Supports my choices 0 1
  • Listens to my opinions 0 1
  • Is positive and encourages me 0 1
  • Accepts when I say I don’t want to have sex 0 1
  • Accepts what I wear and how I look 0 1
  • Is not liked by my friends and family 1 0
  • Makes me feel like I can’t do anything right 1 0
  • Makes fun of me or calls me names 1 0
  • Sulks or gets angry when they don't get what they want 1 0
  • Blames me for their problems 1 0
  • Texts or calls me all the time to check up on me 5 0
  • Makes it hard for me to see my friends and family and gets jealous when I do 5 0
  • Pressures me to have sex or do things I don’t want to 5 0
  • Threatens to hurt themself, me or others 5 0
  • Does things that scare me (breaking things, yelling, driving fast) 5 0

Not your score

0

Your relationship seems to be healthy and respectful. That's great! 

If you do have concerns about your relationship, there are organisations that can help, the Family Services Directory can help you find support in your area.

Not your score

1-2

There may be a few unhealthy aspects to your relationship. This can be a warning sign that it will become more abusive. It’s a good idea to address these early.

Not your score

3-4

There may be some warning signs that your relationship is abusive. It’s important to take warning signs seriously as abuse can get worse over time.

Help is available. You can phone our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

Not your score

5+

There are definitely warning signs in your relationship. Abuse and controlling behaviours can get worse over time and it’s sometimes hard to see how bad things have become.

Don’t ignore the warning signs in your relationship, it’s important to take them seriously.

Call our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

 

Take Quiz 1 again Take Quiz 2: In a relationship, I…

Quiz 2: In a relationship, I…

YesNo

  • Support my partner’s decisions 0 1
  • Get on OK with their friends and family 0 1
  • Listen to their opinion 0 1
  • Spend time by myself 0 1
  • Trust my partner 0 1
  • Criticise or make fun of them in front of others 1 0
  • Get annoyed if I want sex but they don't 1 0
  • Get jealous when they talk to others 1 0
  • Constantly worry they are cheating on me 1 0
  • Text or call all the time to check up on them 1 0
  • Follow or check up on them (read their texts or emails) 5 0
  • Often get upset about what they do 5 0
  • Expect them to tell me where they are all the time 5 0
  • Think it’s OK to be rough sometimes 5 0
  • Take out my frustrations on them 5 0

Not your score

0

Your relationship seems to be healthy and respectful. That's great!

Not your score

1-2

There may be a few unhealthy aspects to your relationship. This can be a warning sign that it will become more abusive. It’s a good idea to address these early.

You might be surprised to find yourself in this category. It doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is unhealthy overall but there may be some aspects of your behaviour you want to address.

 

Not your score

3-4

There may be some warning signs that your relationship is abusive. It’s important to take warning signs seriously as abuse can get worse over time.

Possible warning signs have been identified in your relationship. This means that some of the behaviours you are using could be domestic violence.

Phone our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm. If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

Not your score

5+

There are definitely warning signs in your relationship. Abuse and controlling behaviours can get worse over time and it’s sometimes hard to see how bad things have become.

Don’t ignore the warning signs in your relationship, it’s important to take them seriously. Relationship violence comes in many different forms, it’s not just physical.  You may not be hitting your partner, but your score shows that you are using controlling behaviours. It is likely that your behaviour has got more controlling over the duration of the relationship. No matter what your age or sex, it’s never OK to use violence to hurt or control your partner. If you are hurting your partner you need to get help to change your behaviour. 

Download our advice sheet (pdf 106KB)

Or call our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

Take Quiz 1: The person I am with… Take Quiz 2 again