Your relationship seems to be healthy and respectful. That's great! 

If you do have concerns about your relationship, there are organisations that can help, the Family Services Directory can help you find support in your area.

There may be a few unhealthy aspects to your relationship. This can be a warning sign that it will become more abusive. It’s a good idea to address these early.

There may be some warning signs that your relationship is abusive. It’s important to take warning signs seriously as abuse can get worse over time.

Help is available. You can phone our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

There are definitely warning signs in your relationship. Abuse and controlling behaviours can get worse over time and it’s sometimes hard to see how bad things have become.

Don’t ignore the warning signs in your relationship, it’s important to take them seriously.

Call our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

Your relationship seems to be healthy and respectful. That's great!

There may be a few unhealthy aspects to your relationship. This can be a warning sign that it will become more abusive. It’s a good idea to address these early.

You might be surprised to find yourself in this category. It doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is unhealthy overall but there may be some aspects of your behaviour you want to address.

Relationships Aotearoa has advice on healthy relationships.

There may be some warning signs that your relationship is abusive. It’s important to take warning signs seriously as abuse can get worse over time.

Possible warning signs have been identified in your relationship. This means that some of the behaviours you are using could be domestic violence.

Relationships Aotearoa has advice on healthy relationships.

Or phone our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm. If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.

There are definitely warning signs in your relationship. Abuse and controlling behaviours can get worse over time and it’s sometimes hard to see how bad things have become.

Don’t ignore the warning signs in your relationship, it’s important to take them seriously. Relationship violence comes in many different forms, it’s not just physical.  You may not be hitting your partner, but your score shows that you are using controlling behaviours. It is likely that your behaviour has got more controlling over the duration of the relationship. No matter what your age or sex, it’s never OK to use violence to hurt or control your partner. If you are hurting your partner you need to get help to change your behaviour. 

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Or call our information line on 0800 456 450 to find out about services in your community. The phone line operates seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm.

If you or anyone else is in danger call the Police on 111.