Workmates  are often among the first people to notice that someone is affected by family violence.

You may become aware that someone is struggling to cope emotionally at work.

They may have become withdrawn, depressed, anxious or distracted and fearful at work.

They may start not turning up to work or be late, or they may not want to go home. They might have signs of physical injury.

It is OK to help.

If you’re worried about someone don’t be afraid to ask:

  • Is someone hurting you at home?
  • Is someone making you feel scared?
  • Do you feel unsafe in your relationship?
  • Are you OK?

They may also tell you that they are being hurt in some way by a family member, partner or ex-partner.

It’s OK to talk about your concerns with a family violence service or Police family violence coordinator if you aren’t sure what to do or say.

Phone the information line 0800 456 450 (9am to 11pm) to find services in your area, and work out what you can do.

What you say can make a difference:

  • It’s not OK that you are being hurt.
  • It’s not your fault.
  • When you’re ready I’m here.
  • There is help available.

While respecting your workmate’s privacy, you could find out and let them know what support your workplace offers people affected by family violence. Perhaps there’s an Human Resources (HR) policy that allows for special leave; or free access to an Employee Assistance Programme (EAP).

You might be able to help them develop a safety plan in case the abuser tries to contact them at work.

Our campaign champion Jude Simpson is available to answer (non-crisis) questions via this website.

If someone is in danger call the Police on 111. See The Danger Signs.

Resources and links

I want to help (section on this site)

How can you help?

Download the Supporting Staff Booklet [PDF 535 KB]

Messages about FV

Personal Safety Plan

Workplace Safety Plan

Warning signs

The Danger Signs