Changing my negative and abusive ways - 23 August 2016

I was a very intimidating father and husband, hitting my children and verbally abusing them. I alienated myself and them from me due to the shame I felt when I finally saw myself for what I had become!

I was the exact copy of my peers who hit first because that's how I learned to deal with conflict, I lost the woman who I adored and still do.

It hurts to accept that I destroyed mine and her dream of happiness in the future. I am a different person from becoming aware of and changing my learned negative and abusive way to being a loving parent and partner.

I am that much changed now I actually can have a choice of reacting or not reacting to conflict based comunication. I have to become a better man.

For contacts for support agencies that work with people wanting to stop using violence go to http://areyouok.org.nz/i-need-help/using-violence/

 

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