The Violence Stops Now - 3 July 2013

I have lived with violence for most of my life. I grew up in a home where the two things to fear where the words "wait till your father gets home" and the belting I would get for I can't remember what. I was the oldest so I should have known better and I was often the one who got most of blame for sibling fights. I was supposed to fix it! 

In my teens I was sexually abused by a co-worker, then one relationship after another was violent in one way or other. My ex-husband was physically violent, tried to strangle me, kicked me, stayed out all night and came home drunk and raped me forcefully many times. 

After we broke up it was five years before I meet my husband and while we have struggled through issues over the years we are working on breaking the cycle, getting help where needed and I am working hard to instil in our kids that violence is not the answer.

It is hard work and we need to work as family on it all the time, still have rough days but life is improving and that will help our children who are 11 and 14 to have the skills to find better solutions to challenges they face.

I have seen enough violence in my life and this is where it stops. It starts with me to break the cycle of generations in my family and it continues every day.


← Back to Read Personal Stories