Me aha ahau hei tautoko i te tangata kei te pā ki te patu tūkino whānau?

Mēnā kei te mōhio koe ki tētahi tangata kei te pā ki te patu tūkino whānau, me tautoko i a ia ki te tuku whakatau pai i tōna ake wā. Kei a ia te tikanga mō te tere — me kōrero atu kei reira koe ki te āwhina i a ia.

Me whakarongo, ā, kaua e whakawā

Ki te whāki atu tētahi ki a koe e pēhia ana ia e te riri ā-whare, e whakaatu ana ia i tana whakapono ki a koe. Ka whakaputa ia i ētahi kōrero iti noa kia kite ai ka pēhea atu koe i mua i tana whakatau ki te tuku kōrero atu anō.

Me whakaatu koe he tangata atawhai koe hei pou whirinakitanga mōna i ōna āwangawanga me ngā kare ā-roto. Nō reira me mauri tau koe i ā kōrua kōrerorero ka tuku pātai tuwhera ina taea.

Me whakaatu koe kei te aro atu koe mā te āta whakarongo, me whakaaronui, ā, kaua e whakahau i ō whakaaro me ō whakawā ki runga i a ia.

Me pātai atu mēnā kei te haumaru ia

Me pātai hoki koe mēnā i whakamātau ia ki te rapu tautoko mai i ngā ratonga motuhake e pono ana ia.

Hei aha te ui makihoi mō ngā kōrero he take. Mēnā kāore te tangata e tautokohia ana koe i te hiahia ki te kōrero mō tētahi mea, kaua werowero i a ia mō aua kōrero. Me noho wātea, me whakamōhio atu ki a ia kei kona koe ki te whakarongo me te kōrero ki a ia mēnā e hiahia ana ia.

Me tuku tautoko, engari waiho māna āna whakatau

Ehara i te mea kei te hiahia te hunga wheako i te riri ā-whare kia whakaorangia rātou, otirā koinā hoki te hiahia o te tangata ki te āwhina i a ia. Ki te huri koe ki te tohutohu i a ia, arā, he aha te huarahi pai mōna, tērā pea ka oma kē atu ia i a koe. Mā te whai haere i tōna taha ka nui ake tōna mana me aha ā muri ake.

Me pātai atu koe mēnā kei te hiahia ia ki te whai tautoko mātanga mai i tētahi ratonga patu tūkino whānau. Mēnā ka whakaae ia, me whakapā atu ia ki tētahi o ngā ratonga kei raro o tēnei whārangi.

Or, if they’re willing and want your support, you can help them make a plan to contact a service. Providing structure and writing things down can be a very useful way to provide support. Make sure to keep any notes confidential.

Two women sitting at a dining room table facing each

The person you’re supporting may not want to contact a family violence service. That’s okay – don’t tell them that they should, and don’t contact a service without their permission. Show that you care about them, you aren’t judging them, and you are there for them when they need you. You can also offer them some information that they can look at when they’re ready. They may find the links below useful:

Te mārama ki ngā hononga kāore i te haumaru

Ngā mahi whaitake kia haumaru ai

Let the person you’re supporting know that support is always available if they need it.

He roa pea te wā mō te wehe i tētahi hoa patu tūkino

Kaua e whakarere te tangata kei te tautoko koe mēnā ka hoki ia ki tētahi hoa kei te tūkino i a ia. He mahi noa tērā te whakarere a te tangata i tana hoa, ā, ka hoki atu anō ki a ia, he rite tonu tāna mahi pērā. Ehara i te mea e pēnei ana ia nā te mea he hiahia nōna ki te hoki atu ki te patu tūkino.

Rapu mōhio atu anō mō ngā tauārai mō te rapu āhuru mōwai mai i te patu tūkino whānau.

Me rapu āwhina hei tautoko, ā, me tiaki i a koe anō

Ehara i te mea me haere ko koe anake. Kei te Are You OK Helpline ngā tohutohu me te tūhono i a koe ki ngā patu tūkino puta noa i Aotearoa hei āwhina

Waea atu ki 0800 456 450 mō te Are You OK Helpline. E wātea ana tēnei waea i te ao, i te pō me te tuku mōhiohio, te tuku tautoko me ngā tohutohu mō te patu tūkino whānau.

Ka uaua tonu ēnei āhuatanga. He mea nui te tiaki koe i a koe anō.

Rapu mōhio atu anō mō te tiaki i a koe anō i a koe e tautoko ana i ētahi atu